Is Monday morning, and according to the facts I have gathered is one of the hated days of the week if not the most hated. For the student is a day to go back to the classroom, for the working class, is time for the annoying customers and don't let me get started on your boss.

So someone asked me how to deal with a horrible boss and I the best way to do that is to not have a boss at all. He told me he was working on it, but in the mean time any tips on dealing with his would help.
So this is what i said to him "The truth is you can't deal with your boss, you can only manage and be diplomatic with him and hope he returns the favour".  Well, I believe luck was on his side, because a friend of mine was doing a bit of a light reading and stumbled on this, which I will share with you all:

6 Solid Ways To Put Up With A Difficult Boas

Dealing with a difficult boss can be entirely frustrating, but thankfully there are some ways to successfully put up with it. Jumia Travel, the leading online travel agency, shares 6 ways to put up with a difficult boss.

Understand Their ‘Why’
It easier to deal with a difficult boss when you are able to understand their ‘prime motivations’, that is, the reason they do what they do. The more you understand this, the more you will be able to manage your expectations, deliver the desired results and successfully deal with your difficult boss. Try to figure out what drives your boss; figure out his/her concerns, core values and priorities; try to know understand what he/she cares about; what frightens he/she; what kind of person is he/she; and how does he/she measures success.

Work Around Their Weaknesses
In trying to understand your boss, you’ll gain some insight into his/her weaknesses. When you do, you then need to go a step further and learn to work around such weaknesses and as much as possible, try to make the best of it to favour your work. This because making your boss look bad or going to war with him/her might be very bad for you and damage your reputation. If your boss is disorganized, rather than complaining about it, try to keep things as organized as possible. If your boss is forgetful or slow to respond, ensure you find a way to document all interactions with him/her and continue with your work while you wait to hear back from him/her. Regardless of whatever weakness your boss has, you should settle down, think and try to find a way around it. You almost always will.

Be The Better Person
This will speak a lot for your reputation and do more for you than confronting your boss and letting his/her bad behaviour get to you. Avoid letting your boss’s bad behaviour influence and dictate your own behaviour. As much as possible try to remain respectful and professional, in other words, take the high road. Refuse the temptation to slack off, lose interest or stop performing, all because your boss does so. This is because successfully handling a difficult boss positively sets you apart, and the truth is you never know who’s watching or listening and who you’re impressing with your resilience.
Adapt To Them But Never Cower
Yes, it’s important to observe your boss’s behavioural styles, preferences and pet peeves, and learn to adapt to them by finding ways to deal with them, but you are not to lose your sense of independence and allow your boss bully you and make you cower in fear. You must always stand firm, keep your head held high and refuse to let your boss push you around. Just make sure you do the best job you can, ask questions where you need to and try to understand and mitigate difficult situations, but never cower in fear to your boss or allow your boss make you lose your temper.

You Can Try To Talk To Them
Sometimes, your boss might not mean to be such a nightmare, he/she might not even know that they are doing anything wrong. Just remember that there is an option of voicing your concerns to your boss and engaging in a mature conversation about how the situation can be improved. Avoid being judgmental and assuming your boss can’t take feedback or just doesn’t care. The only thing you need to be mindful of here is the personality type of your boss, that is, how mature he/she is to handle being talked to and worked with to find ways to move forward with the situation.
Escalate
If the situation with your boss is beyond bad and your boss’s behaviour has become not only difficult but even abusive, it might be advisable to report to the management. However, you should try as much as possible to let this be the last resort after you’ve tried all else

So there you

When ever you come up with a brilliant idea, or you have something on your mind and you need a second opinion who do you usually run to for counsel? Is quite common in most cases to seek the advice of a family member, why? Because they are family and who else who care and love us more than family right. Today on the series we'll be looking at association as it relates to family and blood relatives. Family in this context refers to people who share one or both parents and these people play very significant roles in who we become in future.

I know of a friend who till today suffers from a lack of ability to express himself due to the fact that he was always sh

ut down and that affected his self Worth's. Family is so important that their role in who we ultimately become cannot be overlooked and sometimes they "kill" the greatness in us even without knowing it.

Here are some of the ways you can deal with family members who talk you down and find it hard to see anything great in what you do;

1. Centering yourself before interactions:
Before you call or visit such family member, take a few minutes to calm and center yourself. Take some slow, deep breaths or even meditate for a few minutes. Entering into a potentially hostile interaction when you are calm and centered is one of the most effective ways to guarantee the best possible outcome.

2. Keeping the conversation light:
To deal with these family members effectively, it’s always a good idea to keep the conversation light and happy. You can’t depend on toxic or negative people to respond to serious problems and issues in a positive, beneficial way, so why bother trying?
Instead, stick to conversation topics that you know both of you can enjoy and be happy discussing. Some may call this “walking on eggshells,” but I prefer looking at it more as “letting sleeping dogs lie.”
Contrary to what many people think, “talking about our problems” doesn’t help anything. Positive conversations are generally a much better approach for strained relationships.

3. Abandoning negative conversations:
Does it annoy you when you’re talking to your aunt and she starts to pick on you about not being married yet, or making fun of your job? When this happens, it’s time to put the phone down.
When conversations take a turn for the negative, there’s no sense in taking the bait and getting wound into an argument. Politely tell your aunt “well, look at the time, I really need to get going!” and excuse yourself from the conversation.
Don’t react to comments you don’t want to hear, and you will start to hear less of them. If you refuse to give your family members an audience for their hurtful comments, they will start to speak to you differently in order to keep your attention.

4. Expressing your concerns without accusation:
There will likely be times that your  family members do things that are very hurtful, and in times like these you might feel compelled to stand up for yourself. If you feel that a confrontation is necessary, please tread lightly. Hashing things out must be done respectfully, so that the conversation helps to mend the relationship, rather than escalating into an even greater issue.
For example, when we are upset, many of us tend to say things like “Dad, you’re always talking about my weight and trying to embarrass me!” and while this might be true, you have just accused your father of
intentionally trying to hurt you, and he will likely take offense to this accusation.
Instead of saying “I’m sorry,” you’re much more likely to hear your dad yell “I’m not trying to embarrass you! It was just a joke, why are you so sensitive!?” Then, instead of a resolution, you have a whole new argument on your hands.
In order to be heard and supported more fully from your family members, it is better to stick to non-accusatory “I feel” statements. For example, “Dad, when you talk about how much weight I’ve gained, I feel hurt and upset.”
By using an “I feel” statement, you express your feelings without accusing your family member of having bad intentions. People are much more likely to respond to an “I feel” statement with compassion and understanding.

5. Resisting the urge to people please:
So often when we are in annoying family relationships, we have been trained into becoming people pleasers, and our dysfunctional family members have learned how to push our buttons to get us to call more, visit more frequently, and provide favors we aren’t particularly interested in providing.
Don’t be afraid to say “no,” when you really don’t want to do something. That “no” you feel is a sign from your intuition telling you that this request is a bad idea, so listen to it!
Many people are hesitant to tell their family members “no” because they are afraid of dealing with the reaction they will get. However, if you can start doing this routinely, you will find that your family members will change how they interact with you. If they know that you are unlikely to respond to manipulation and guilt tactics, they will eventually stop using them on you.
Be strong, and stick to your guns the first few times, and saying “no” will get easier and easier for you.

6. Focusing on your family member’s positive qualities:
This one might seem a bit strange at first, but it’s a fantastic strategy. So often, we notice and complain about our family members’ worst qualities, but this only brings us more of the things we don’t like.
According to the Law of Attraction , you get what you are thinking about, so the more you think and complain about behaviors you don’t like-the more of them you will see! So, to start to turn things around, change how you look at your dysfunctional family members. Secondly if you continually see and observe the negative, it only means you are a negative person as well and you not quite different from your family.
Instead of noticing that your mom talks down to you and compares you to your brother, reach for more pleasing observations of her. Notice how clean she keeps her house, the nice gifts that she’s brought you or how well she plays with your younger siblings. By focusing on her positive qualities, you will start to see more of the good in your mom, and less of the bad.

When it comes to friends you can pick or discard at any point in terms of association but when it comes to family, you are not even given the chance to choose. So, the best thing you can do is to manage and avoid as much as possible. Show them love and care but don't let me drag you down or steal your dream, though you belong to a family  you came into this universe alone, and at the end of the day you will go six feet under alone so is your life and not theirs they just happened to be part of it. So until the next time, keep working towards success and I will definitely see you at the top.

When we talk about association, it’s Imbedded in your environment. In all of my experience in life, I’ve never seen a winner associate with a loser and not become one. Keeping the right company can make you grow, but it also has the capacity to retard your growth and make you counter productive. Lions don’t Hang around squirrels, neither do Kings have an affiliation with slaves,

Your success in career and life generally is tied around the company you keep so I urge you to keep the right kind of friends and together you guys can achieve success while growing into the people you’re meant to be. Yesterday we spoke about the kind of friends you keep and their different effect on your progress. Now, see this video that further illustrates that:

So, learn to be more loyal to your purpose, than the people the hang around you, don't be afraid to cut off any unhealthy relationship or association as you work towards success and I will definitely see you at the top.

Do you know this saying: "show me your friends and i will tell you who you are" well that is old, the new quote now says: "show me your friends and i will show you where you are going". This shows how powerful the people you associate with is as they have the ability to shape your future. A dictionary defines association as the act of association or being connected with someone or something. A renowned speaker and a personal mentor; Fela Durotoye defines association as what or who you spend more of your time with. It is stated that you are the average of the 5 people you spend most of your time with and it’s really true coz I remember my days in the university, I was struggling academically when I was going all alone, but I was later introduced to a couple of “scholars”(a word we use to refer to folks that are academically intelligent) which later increased my academic performance.

The impact of who you associate with can’t be underestimated as even animals, fishes and birds understand this phenomenon. An eagle never associates with a pigeon just as a whale never associates with a tilapia, they are obviously not of the same ranking and can never be seen together.

Bringing it home to Youths of this generation, if you know and you’re convinced that you’re destined for greatness, there are some people whom you may just have to stay away from and this is because every association does one of the following to you;

Add to you; Some people could make you become better, improve your abilities, your confidence and also your level of significance. These kinds of people make you much better. A good example sited above are the friends I me in the university which I mentioned above.

Subtract from you; These ones are always taking from you, and you never gain anything from associating with them. They borrow from you and never give back, they take stuff from you without your knowledge, and you just loose stuff while around them.

Divide you; These kind of friends have a drastic and exponential negative effect on you. Take for instance; you share an idea with them, they steal it, or you ask them to listen to a song you wrote and the next moment you find your lyrics on their own song. You need to stay away from these kinds of people as they’ll make sure they convert everything that’s supposed to come to you.

Multiply you; These are the kind of friends I love to talk about. Just being around them edifies you. They make you know that everything is achievable, you share with them a business idea which you want to run within campus and they give you reasons why you need to take it to a national level. They do everything within their power to endeavor that things are always getting better with you.

Until we come your way tomorrow for another dose of #Mikemissilesseries that will #brainwash to success I leave you to ponder on this, I want you to take a time out and conduct an exercise; try to identify your friends that add to you, those that subtract from you, those that multiply and those that divide. Once you find the answer, I believe you know what to.
Have a great Monday, and stay Positive keep working towards success and I will definitely see you at the top.

Good morning friends,  you know there are some topics that you can't avoid revisiting, and today's topic is one of such. We’ll be talking about the fear of failing because from observation, this is one of the factors that affects the driving force of an individual. So, Without further ado, let’s do justice to it as soon as possible.

Before going any further, I’ll like us to define our main text; FAILURE.
Failure as defined by a dictionary is the state or condition of not meeting a desirable or intended objective, opposite of success. To me, failure is simply not reaching your expectations.
In our contemporary society today, we find a lot of young people who do everything humanly possible to make sure that they’re not tagged as failures, it’s not a bad thing to not want to fail but the bad part is that we don’t even try anymore because we’re too scared of failing. Now, from my perspective, failing actually does something for you and guys believe it or not it teaches one the wrong way of doing something.
The man who invented the bulb 💡 we’re celebrating today, imagine how he felt when he failed the first, and second, and third and kept on failing until over a hundred times and he finally ran out of wrong ways before finding the right way.

A favorite quote says "you loose a hundred percent of the shots you do not take". And even worse, you don’t learn the lesson you should have learned from the failing experience and so it’s a double loss.
If you follow successful men, you’ll observed that they all failed at something at one time or another, but they kept pushing and never gave up, they fought the battle with their minds and told themselves that failing a couple of times doesn’t make you a failure, but refusing to engage because of a previous failure makes you one. The only thing is this, if you want to fail, you must fail creatively and what do I mean by that; Albert Einstein said " insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result". If you are to fail at something, let it be that you are failing at  a new strategy or method of achieving your desired result. In that way, you will eliminate all the method involved in solving a problem.

I leave you with a saying from one of my favorite speakers that says, “show me a man who is afraid of failing, and I’ll show you a man who will never be successful”.
From all of us here, we say have a fun filled Friday, and don’t loose sight of what you’ve set to achieve and we’ll definitely see you at the top.

They say the two greatest moment in a man's life are: the day is born and the day he finds his purpose. The latter is usually the hardest. People who possess powerful driving force usually have a stronger purpose.  Purpose for me is simply the reason you exist. Believe it or not, everyone on this planet earth, has a reason for their existence and it is really important you find yours.


Purpose affects every area of one's life. From the way you talk, walk, and even the way you wake up is all affected by it. People with purpose for their lives practically jump out of bed while people without purpose become friends with the snooze button when the alarm rings. I met a lady once, and I asked her what is the next big thing for her. This is a question we normally ask around here when one someone is about to round up his/her 1st degree program from the university. She replied in pidgin "I go go service first then after service, I go try find husband marry then maybe the guy go open provision shop way I go dey sale dey take care of house"(for those not grounded in pidgin, it simply means she plans to find herself a husband after a one year of compulsory service the her nation, then hope her husband open up a kiosk where she can retail goods). Jeez! I was left speechless. Suddenly, I started understanding most of her actions, she always spoke about marriage, she was in one relationship or another, because what she has decided to be her purpose is to get married. The greatest epiphany I had that day is the fact that she is just one out of a million ladies thinking this way.


The male folks don't smile yet because you guys are also guilty of this, most young guys of today are waiting on relatives to make their dreams of being independent come through, that is their purpose. Please don't get me wrong, all what I have stated above are purpose, but they are weak and poor purpose and are products of poor driving force. You can't let your life's purpose be in the hands of an unknown future husband or a kind hearted relative, more or less you have placed your life and future in their hands


Your purpose is not about getting a good paying job or a good man to marry, it is way beyond that. Your purpose is the role you have to play in Life and on earth. Your purpose is your legacy and what you will be remembered for when you gone. Your purpose should bring value to humanity and not just yourself. In simple words your purpose is the reason why you were born and the vacuum you were created to fill.


Lastly, don't feel is to late to find your purpose, it is true great minds like Michael Jackson discovered his at the tender age of 5 and Ludwig Beethoven discovered his at 8. But some other people discovered theirs pretty late(or so the world thought) a shining example is the great Colonel Harland David Sander the founder of Kentucky Fried Chicken who discovered his at the age of 65, Morgan Freeman scored his first big movie role at the age 50. So, is never too late just keep searching within you and you will find your purpose. So, like I always say when I want to live, keep working towards success and I will definitely see you at the top.

For me, this was the greatest lesson I learnt from the animated cartoon "The Lion King".
Some years ago, I used to get worried over little things, things that are ordinarily ‘worryless’. I realized later that the more I dwell on these needless matters, the higher my blood pressure becomes, the uglier I become and the more worried I become. Then I decided not to be worried over them anymore. But how could I live a worry-free life? I chose to do or/and not to do these 3 things I am sharing with you. Here they are:

Say “I am sorry” When You Are Wrong
One act that has become a part of me is to apologize. As a matter of fact, I did that to a junior friend about an hour ago. I say it to my colleagues, at work, to my friends to my neighbors and even to my students. The moment I find I am wrong, I say sorry without taking long or thinking twice. The other day, I had a poor encounter with a young lady and after realizing it, i went to her house and told her I was sorry for my misdeed and it was all over. She even appreciated it because she was surprised. If I had not done that, I would still be carrying that luggage around and invariably giving myself a heavy heart. So, say sorry whenever you are wrong. It takes nothing away from you.
“If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically”- Dale Carnegie

Never Expect “Thank You” or Anything from Anyone
It’s time to confess this. I was a long time landlord in the Expectancy Estate, always looking forward to hear a beneficiary say, ‘thank you’ to me. I lived in that estate so much that I built a mansion there. But thank goodness for self-development that made me realize this: The more you expect things from anyone and you don’t get it, the more worried and disturbed you become. Thus, lower your expectations from people or if possible, expect nothing from them. That was my saving grace. Today, instead of expecting a ‘thank you’ from anyone, I am the first to say it first. And when he thanks me first, I reply with this phrase, “Thank you for thanking me”. In essence, never expect thanks from anyone because if you expect it and don’t get it, it infuriates you.
“Blessed are those who do not expect anything for they will not be disappointed” – Akeh Solomon

Inform One Who Offends You
If you want your life to be full of worry, always keep grudges in your mind. Somebody, to paraphrase said that: the world would be a better place if we talk to each other instead of talking about each other. This is very true, walk-up to anyone that offended you, nicely, calmly and responsibly tell him how he wronged you. Except you did it wrongly (or that the person is a serial wrongdoer) he would appreciate it. It he’s an elderly person or a boss, what can you do? I don’t know but for me, I do tell a mate and that gets if off my head and mind and I become free!

“Grudges are a waste of perfect happiness. Laugh when you can, apologize when you should and let go of what you cannot change” – Akeh Solomon .

More or less we should strive to live a life of no worry, is not easy since it opposes our human nature, but this is my philosophy that prevents me from pouting: "worrying is like praying for something you don't want to happen" so less frowns and more smiles as you work towards success and I will definitely see you at the top.

Is a new week and also a beautiful morning over here, so like I always recommend let us start the week on a high note. But for you to kick off the week, excited and fired up, you need a driving force.
So what is driving force? This is the impetus, power or energy behind something in motion.
In our context, I say it’s the reason behind your accomplishments, your success, your portfolio.
It is the force that tells you that you can’t be at the bottom, its what tells you that you’re supposed to be better than what or where you are. It tells you that you can achieve more than just mediocrity and pushes you accordingly.
Without a healthy force driving you, you’re surely not going anywhere new nor achieving anything new, or even attaining any heights.
I was with a friend a couple of days before and he spoke about how many young people are caught in a situation where they neither want to move forward or retreat backwards. It then occurred to me that what they lacked was a healthy force to drive them into who they should be.
Growing up, I got to know that to achieve anything spectacular, you should either be chasing after something or something should be chasing after you. It’s much safer for you to be inline with the former than the latter because you tend to be under a lesser degree of pressure thereby making you more productive.
I heard the story of a king who wanted to give out his daughter in marriage and had set a date for all eligible men to compete for her hand. On the said day, all the gentlemen gathered only to find out that the test was a swim across a stream full of crocodiles and they then decided to go back home. Just as they were leaving, a heave splash was heard and behold was a young man in the water. The man swam like never before, he swam  like his life depended on it coz it actually did. Finally he made it to the other side of the river and had just swam his way to being the lings Inlaw. When he got out, everyone wanted to ask him how he managed to make it across the water but he said he had only one thing to say and behold he asked, “who pushed me” ?
Unfortunately, this is the case of many young people today, they’re not ready to take the jump coz they think they won’t make it across the river.


Two things are involved in driving people to succeed;
Fear of failing
Thirst for success
It is much better to pick on any of the two and make it your source of drive, what’s important is that you should succeed. But I highly recommend the second.
Some healthy qualities that would help you in the quest to help your driving force are;
Be practical and not emotional
Have a wild imagination and be creative
Have a futuristic vision
Be a doer not a talker
Be an advocate of self discipline
Be independent
Be patient
Be determined
Be self motivated
Finally, love what you do.

That’s all for today on the series; so find something, someone or a reason to be your driving force. As the week progress, we will be shooting more missiles related to the topic, so stay with us not to miss out but until then, keep working towards success and I will definitely see you at the top.

When someone who has a lot of activities, that all demand his or her time wants to get organized what does that individual usually do? Well, is simple get a to do list. Most of us at one point or another may have had a to do list,  you know that good old list where we write down what we intend to do, and once we achieve a particular task we check it. The to do list is very helpful, though is has its limitations. The problem with the to do list is this, it makes you feel like you have alot to do with very little time, most people end up doing the easy tasks in order to have more items checked on the list. This is not right, the aim of the list is not about making you feel like you have done alot, rather is to make you attend to issues at their level of priority. Today, we will be presenting to you a new kind of to do list, which have being proven to be highly effective in maximizing time while you execute your tasks.

Time management is not very difficult as a concept, but it’s surprisingly hard to do in practice. It requires the investment of a little time upfront to prioritise and organise yourself. But once done, you will find that with minor tweaks, your day, and indeed your week and month, fall into place in an orderly fashion, with time for everything you need to do.
The Key to Good Time Management
Understanding The Difference Between Urgent and Important
‘ Urgent ’ tasks demand your immediate attention, but whether you actually give them that attention may or may not matter.
' Important ' tasks matter, and not doing them may have serious consequences for you or others.
For example:
Answering the phone is urgent. If you don’t do it, the caller will ring off, and you won’t know why they called. It may, however, be an automated voice from your service provider telling you of their new products and services and you agree with me when i say that’s not important.
Going for medical check up regularly is important (or so we’re told). If you don’t, you may get infected with a disease, or other health problems. But it’s not urgent. If you leave it too long, however, it may become urgent, because you may breakdown.
Picking your children up from school is both urgent and important. If you are not there at the right time, they will be waiting in the playground or the classroom, worrying about where you are.
Reading funny emails or checking Facebook is neither urgent nor important. So why is it the first thing that you do each day?
minimising distractions to help you recognise and avoid other things that may distract you from getting your urgent and important tasks done.
This distinction between urgent and important is the key to prioritising your time and your workload, whether at work or at home.
Try using a grid, like the priority matrix, to organise your tasks into their appropriate categories like the one above.

 Talking about time, at this point, there is something important that demands my urgent attention so permit me leave you. Like I always say keep working towards success and I will definitely see you at the top olebonchi(that is good bye in Idoma language).

Do you have that feeling of 24hrs not being enough? Well if you do, this one is for you and trust me when I say I understand, because the feeling is mutual. So, let just get down to business and not let time slip away from since we just have 24 hours and is it not enough.
But, if we were to face reality, we would realize is not time about time being insufficient, it is about knowing how well to treat time with the respect it demands. As it is said in economics, "resources are scarce and thus there is a need to manage our limited resources" this Idls very true, so guess which tops the scarcity list, well is not money as everyone thinks, time amongst all resources is scarce and very limited in supply, thus proper management is required for its full optimization and utility. Bearing this fact in mind, this particular piece is dedicated to offering 10 easy steps which will aid you in organization and management of your time.
As humans, you may be frequently interrupted or pulled in different directions. While you cannot eliminate interruptions, you do get a say on how much time you will spend on them and how much time you will spend on the thoughts, conversations and actions that will lead you to success.
1. Carry a schedule and record all your thoughts, conversations and activities for a week. This will help you understand how much you can get done during the course of a day and where your precious moments are going. You'll see how much time is actually spent producing results and how much time is wasted on unproductive thoughts, conversations and actions.
2. Any activity or conversation that's important to your success should have a time assigned to it. To-do lists get longer and longer to the point where they're unworkable. Appointment books work. Schedule appointments with yourself and create time blocks for high-priority thoughts, conversations, and actions. Schedule when they will begin and end. Have the discipline to keep these appointments.
3. Plan to spend at least 50 percent of your time engaged in the thoughts, activities and conversations that produce most of your results.
4. Schedule time for interruptions. Plan time to be pulled away from what you're doing. Take, for instance, the concept of having "office hours." Isn't "office hours" another way of saying "planned interruptions?"
5. Take the first 30 minutes of every day to plan your day. Don't start your day until you complete your time plan. The most important time of your day is the time you schedule to schedule time.
6. Take five minutes before every call and task to decide what result you want to attain. This will help you know what success looks like before you start. And it will also slow time down. Take five minutes after each call and activity to determine whether your desired result was achieved. If not, what was missing? How do you put what's missing in your next call or activity?
7. Put up a "Do not disturb" sign when you absolutely have to get work done.
8. Practice not answering the phone just because it's ringing and e-mails just because they show up. Disconnect instant messaging. Don't instantly give people your attention unless it's absolutely crucial in your business to offer an immediate human response. Instead, schedule a time to answer email and return phone calls.
9. Block out other distractions like Facebook and other forms of social media unless you use these tools to generate business.
10. Remember that it's impossible to get everything done. Also remember that odds are good that 20 percent of your thoughts, conversations and activities produce 80 percent of your results.

These are simple steps that could be practiced by almost anyone, you may not notice any remarkable improvement from the start, but assure you that if you are able to keep to these little disciplines, you will be shocked at the compound effect overtime. Now, permit me to take a bow an leave you guys for today, so stay positive, keep working towards success and I will definitely see you at the top.

Chances are good that, at some time in your life, you've taken a time management class, read about it in books, and tried to use an electronic or paper-based day planner to organize, prioritize and schedule your day. "Why, with this knowledge and these gadgets," you may ask, "do I still feel like I can't get everything done I need to?"
The answer is simple. Everything you ever learned about managing time is a complete waste of time if you have not put it into practice or if you had quit at one point along the way.
To start with, most people don't know what time means thus how can you manage something you don't know?
Before you can even begin to manage time, you must learn what time is. A dictionary defines time as "the point or period at which things occur." Put simply, time is when stuff happens.
There are two types of time: clock time and real time. In clock time, there are 60 seconds in a minute, 60 minutes in an hour, 24 hours in a day and 365 days in a year. All time passes equally. When someone turns 50, they are exactly 50 years old, no more or no less.
In real time, all time is relative. Time flies or drags depending on what you're doing. Two hours at the Department of Motor Vehicles can feel like 12 years. And yet our 12-year-old children seem to have grown up in only two hours.Which time describes the world in which you really live, real time or clock time?
The reason time management gadgets and systems don't work is that these systems are designed to manage clock time. Clock time is irrelevant . You don't live in or even have access to clock time. You live in real time, a world in which all time flies when you are having fun or drags when you are doing your taxes.
The good news is that real time is mental. It exists between your ears. You create it. Anything you create, you can manage. It's time to remove any self-sabotage or self-limitation you have around "not having enough time," or today not being "the right time" to start a business or manage your current business properly.
There are only three ways to spend time: thoughts, conversations and actions. Regardless of the type of business you own, your work will be composed of those three items. Don't use all your time planing and you end up not doing, what is needed to be done to achieve success. So, learn to  utilize your time as you work towards success, and I will definitely see you at the top. Bye until we meet again.

Are you aware statistics shows that the most conversation a human has is with himself. So, next time you see someone talking to himself, don’t be quick to judge that the person is losing a nut or two, it is a natural phenomenon. We all at one point or another have engaged ourselves in a conversation with ourselves, some of us even go the extra mile by staring at our reflections in the mirror while do this. Whatever way we do it, is perfectly ok because this phenomenon is very important, it is through soliloquizing that we meditate and clear our thoughts. The issue is we do not fully utilize this gift, the things you say matters a lot but most of us are not aware of that. Whatever you utter your mind ponders and work on it. I have earlier said that whatever others say don’t matter as much as what you tell yourself. If someone calls you a loser, your mind will not accept it except if you have said it before either out loud when you lament or when meditating silently, remember if there is no enemy. You should learn to say nice uplifting things about yourself, if you dream of becoming a big movie star, learn to look in the mirror and say ‘’wow I am an awesome actor’’. You may not actually be an actor, but your mind does not have the ability to differentiate between what is false and what is true, whatever you feed it, it grows on, you may not know this but your mind, tends to attract its most dominant thoughts. The more you say good things about yourself, the more your mind believes it and attract those good things to you (this will be properly discussed when we are focusing on the law of attraction).

This practice is very important as it increases the level of our self-belief so, we should make it a part of us to say positive things about every day before stepping to go about our daily activities. Firstly I recommend us all to make a list of the most positive statement we can think of. Next paste the list on your door, wall, wardrobe or wherever you please but make sure it is pasted where you can see it whenever you get up in the morning. This should be the first thing you do in the morning, if you usually pray when you get out of bed, then this should be the second thing you do.

If you are not sure of what the list should look like, here is a sample, you can choose to add to it, or say them in your own words:
The world has a need for me.

I am awesome

The least I can be is outstanding
I am unique.

I can and I will do things to promote healing in my life.

I can handle this one step at a time.

The sun is shining; I am ready to take on another day.

My problem has a solution; I will work on a plan.

I am a survivor.

I refuse to give up because I haven’t tried all possible ways.

I will inhale confidence and exhale doubt.
I am smart.

I believe I can change the world (or at least my corner of it).

I am important.

Today, I will celebrate me.

I matter.

I can find peace through prayer and meditation.

I am strong.

My confidence is beautiful.

I am imperfect but I’m perfectly me.

My smile can make someone feel better.

I choose to focus on what I can control.

Everything will work out in the end. If it hasn’t worked out yet, it’s not the end.

I am happy with who I am.

Every day, in every way, I am becoming better and better.

I am a good person.

I keep going because I believe in myself.

I choose to see the good in the people I interact with today.

It is always too early to give up on my goals.
I can reach out for help if I need it.

I am special; I will not change myself for anyone.

I choose hope.

The answer is right before me, even if I do not see it right now.

I am thankful for(say the things you are thankful for).

I choose to take good care of myself.

I accept myself for who I am and all that I can be.

I can make a difference.

My past does not define my future, I do.
My life is filled with possibility.

So, instead of grabbing your phone every morning to see what is new on Facebook or Instagram, try this out and you will be shocked the positive effect it will have on you. That will be all for today remember to keep working towards success and I will definitely see you at the top.

I hope we are all fired up for the gifts and treasure today have in store for us? Bear in mind that every new day is an opportunity to do something new, make something new, or learn something new. So don't let today's opportunity slip away. Yesterday we spoke about emptying our minds of negative thoughts and filling it up with positive thoughts. Today's focus will be on how to continually fuel your mind with optimism in order to remain positive. So, if you are joining us for the first time, I recommend you read the previous publications to avoid getting lost as we proceed.

We mentioned in our discussion yesterday that we are all born positive minded but by virtue of our environment, we pick up negativity as we grow up. This simply implies that we live in a very negative environment, it is said that two things makes up a man; his DNA and his environment. This goes to show that environment, plays a very vital role in shaping and molding an individual, so how can one stay positive in a very negative environment you may ask. For you to stay positive, you have to create an environment that is full of positivity. This particular is applied in different fields, sectors or areas of society, for example if you were to go into a church, mosque or a religious structure, the environment have being setup to give you the feeling that you are in a sacred, holy place and immediately you step in, you shape your mind to be in one accord with the environment, the same thing with a library, or even when you walk into a wine bar. What ever area of society, the environment is usually setup to suit its purpose. In the same way, an individual should structure his environment to make him stay positive. On like those other areas whereas their environment, is just basically building, what makes up the human environment is different, remember the human mind feeds on what it hears, sees and says, thus when influencing your environment, these should be taken into consideration. The following are the basic things that constitute a human environment;

RELATIONSHIPS: this comprises of friendship, family, organizations etc, we are mostly influenced by the individuals we hang around, what they say, or do affect us positively or negatively, as the suffix implies every relationship is like a ship, in a ship we have the propeller, which boost and move the ship forward, and there is also the anchor, that slows down the ship and brings it to a halt. Learn to identify relationships that are anchors in your life and cut them off your ship. This is an entirely broad subject and we will thoroughly, discuss it when we are dealing with association.

MEDIA/LIBRARY: this comprises of videos, audios, pictures, and books. We should spend more times listening to audios that inspires us, watch videos that educate us in what ever field or venture we are interested in, read books that keep our believe strong. This is the 21st century, more than half of the world's population have a smartphone, and most of us have a headset which we use to listen to music, if we could devote the time we use in listening to music, to listen to something educational or inspiring, you will be shocked how motivated you will be. While using the social media like Facebook, Instagram etc, learn to follow pages and people with sound content. If you want to watch a YouTube video let it be one that makes you feel positive and not one to bring you down. The list goes on and on, whatever makes up your media should be something to inspire you and not make you feel low.

Lastly, we should all try to have a personal space, more like a study room or closet. This space should serve as your sanctuary, here you can paste write ups like  your personal affirmation statements, your vision, your goals, etc. This space should be used for meditation, and planning of your next step of action. The space should act as your power house, when ever your energy level drops, go into this room recite your affirmation statements, look at your vision and meditate on them, you will be surprised the effect it will have on you and your believe system.

Before I go, I want us to try this out; take out time today and try to identify associations that are propellers, and those that are anchors, once you find out the anchors, I believe you know what to do. Goodbye for now, keep working towards success and I will definitely see you at the top.

One of the things I usually look forward to is this moment; to talk and connect with all of you via this wonderful platform, I hope we all feel the same or at least something close to that. Our previous discussion was centred on self belief and I mentioned that, we will focus on learning and developing our self belief. So, without further ado let's get cracking.

"Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice". This was said by the late Steve Jobs in 2005, at Stanford University in his commencement speech. He said plenty but, there was something about this statement that made it standout in my thoughts. What this statement pointed out is the fact that what others say don't matter, it is your own inner voice that is important. This is the 1st step to acquiring self belief, remember we said that self belief is all about positive thinking, and your positive thoughts come from your inner voice, this means you have to learn to listen to your inner voice. The only tragedy is this, most of us have being filled up with so much negativity to such a level that, our inner voices are nothing but doubts and words that demoralizes us. So, when we want to listen to our inner voice, we hear things like "are you sure you can do it", "what if you fail", "you know you are not meant to be great" etc. At the end of the day, our inner voices is no different to the noise from the outside. Now, let me tell you this, all those voices of doubts and negativity you hear inside your head, are not yours. They have being planted in your head by what your environment continually feed you with. Humans are not born negative minded, negativity is something learnt while growing up. If you can cast your mind back, to the period when you were a kid, you will realize that nothing seemed impossible for you, this was not because you were a kid it was because your positive mind had not yet being corrupted by the negative environment.

 So, for you to develop self belief you have to empty your mind of all negativity, as a friend of mine will say, you have to return to your default setting. Everything starts from the mind, you can't have a positive attitude with the same negative mindset, you can't have a positive result with a negative mindset as well. The same way you feed your body with good nutrients to stay healthy, the same way you should feed your mind, and how to you feed your mind? Well, that will be a topic for tomorrow, so if you want to know how to feed your mind to stay positive, keep a date with me tomorrow but until then, keep working towards success and I will definitely see you at the top

‘What will you do if you realize that you can’t fail?’ I saw this question on a photo on instagram and I pondered on it. I asked some of my friends the question and most of them gave me interesting answers. Their answers involved them taking risk, doing something new, challenging status quo, doing things that can be considered a daredevil venture etc. Well, I believe most of us reading this right now may give answers similar to theirs, it is good to know that most of us would love to go the distance with that kind of mindset. But, the question really on my mind is what is stopping most of us from doing those things we thought of when we read this question, what is holding us back? Well this is it; we are afraid of failing and why are we afraid of failure, it is because we don’t believe in our capacity and ability, we don’t believe that most of those things we envision we can achieve in one word, we lack SELF-BELIEF. I would be talking to us about that today, because it is key for us as individuals, if we lack this, it will be practically impossible to achieve success. Bear this in mind as you are reading this, most of those things you said you would do if you know you can’t fail, are the things that really define you, they are the things you really love, and will make you happy and fulfilled.

What is self-belief? Some text define it as the attitude, to believe in your ability, a friend of mine defines it as positive thinking, I will be going with the later because self-belief is just about you having a positive mindset. I have said it severally in most of my publication ‘as a man thinketh so is he’ the key to having a positive attitude is having a positive mind. When you lack self-belief it is usually accompanied with feeling of inferiority and sadness. Most of us know that we are better than who we are presently, we deserve more than what we are getting out of live, but because we don’t dare to make that change, or take that one drastic step that will change everything, we are still stuck in the same situation we have always being in. And why don’t we take that decision, it is because we don’t trust ourselves enough, we don’t feel we are good enough, we don’t believe in our ability. I once met a lady who lacked self-belief she blamed it on her parents especially her dad because she claimed they made her feel she was not good enough, this was what I told her and am also going to be saying it to all of us that feel the same way about your parents, teacher or spouse; ‘no one can make you feel inferior without your consent’ as Les Brown would say; ‘don’t let someone else opinion of you become your reality’. You need to start believing in yourself, because it is only by doing that, you can start knowing your shortcomings and limitation, if you don’t believe in yourself enough to try something new, you will never know what you are good or not good at and what you need to learn to better yourself.

We should learn to adopt this and start believing in ourselves, in our talents or God given ability. No great leader we see and admire today lacks self-belief because if they do not believe in themselves they how do you expect others to believe in them? I throw the same question back to us all so that we can all ponder on, how do you expect others to believe in you if you don’t believe in yourself. The good news is, self-belief is learnable and as we go on we will focus on learning it. Let me conclude by saying this you are capable of a lot more than you think, always have this at the back of your mind. This is where I leave you for today just keep working towards success and I will definitely see you at the top.

A new day is here again, and you know what that means, it signifies a new start for you, and for us here, a new day signifies a new motivational piece to keep you fired up and hungry for success. On our previous piece we spoke about having the right mindset of money and role models we should emulate in that regard. So I believe at this point we all have the same mindset or perception of what money really is, except you have not read the previous piece, which I will strongly advice you do to avoid being lost on the way. So today we will focus on how to use money wisely to ensure you don’t run dry of cash.

To be financially free comes with a big price, and most of it is centered on self-discipline, the ability of you to be in control of your emotions is a very great skill and does not come easy, it takes constant practice and tenacity to achieve the discipline that you need to handle finance. It entails you depriving yourself of some immediate pleasure for a future gain. The last statement shows that for you to be able to handle cash you must be a good visionary, because if you can’t envision the future, you won’t see the need to starve yourself of the little cares around you.

George Clason, a very prolific writer gave some of the disciplines one needs to practice in his book “The Richest Man In Babylon’’. It is a book more than fifty years old but because of the rich treasures embedded in its pages; it has being immortalized and have being a guiding principle to the rich. Because of the simplicity of his text we will be taking insight from his book, and as you read bear in mind these are the principles that made some people you admire today financially free:

Pay yourself first
One of the lessons learned from this book you should pay yourself first before spending. You can call it me tax If you like but you need to appreciate yourself for a job well done.

Live below your means
Controlling your expenditures enables us to make good use of the money we have left over after have paid ourselves. Budget your expenses so that you may have money for your enjoyment and to gratify your worthwhile desires without spending more than nine-tenth of your earnings. In his own words;” learn to live on 70% of your earning and save 30%”. This could vary with individuals but the least you should save is 30%.

Make your money work for you
This is more about investing your money and letting it work for you even though you’re not there.

Insurance Protects your wealth
This helps in safeguarding our wealth by absorbing potential loss and mitigating our financial situation. It is a proactive approach and one we should take and not forget.

Your home is your biggest expense
Your home is potentially the biggest expense you have to tackle and managing it smartly is something you have to learn in his own words; “own thy dwelling”.

Have a retirement plan
Setting aside money to be invested upon retirement is surely a smart thing to do. The earlier you start the retirement planning process, the better for you.

Invest in yourself
The best way to increase earnings is to invest in yourself; which is continually learning and striving to develop yourself and this has been made a lot easier since we’re in the information age where technology and information are readily available via the internet

Track your wealth
In order to know where you are financially, you need to face the truth of the current situation. It is done by tracking wealth and/or lack thereof. A major difference between wealthy people and those who are not is that wealthy people know their net worth while the poor do not pay particular attention nor care about their assets and liabilities.

Observe that from no 3 it involves you using your money, the problem most people have with saving is this; people save money only to use it on the mature toys I mentioned in our previous article, the essence of saving, is to invest the money on something worthwhile to bring back more cash for you, so money is basically a tool to work for you and not you working endlessly for. I will strongly recommend that we all should the text and read it, believe me when I say you will be very happy you did. This is where I leave you for today but I urge us all to practice these principle one at a time, don’t rush into practicing all you will get exhausted and probably crash on the way, start from baby strides before taking the giant steps. Like I always say, keep working towards success and I will definitely see you at the top.

Yesterday I was with a friend, and while we spoke the issue of money became part of the conversation. He spoke about all the things he would do when he has money, you know the normal talk and please don’t pretend because at some point we had either fantasized or even said the things we will do. Speaking  about doing this and that is not bad; the only issue was the things he wanted to do with the money like buy a fancy car, go on luxury trips, etc. I believe our meeting was kind of timely and fate wanted our path to cross yesterday because I haven’t seen him in a while. Secondly I met him when the topic we have chosen to talk about this week is riches. From our previous discussions if you recall we mentioned what constitutes real riches and money or financial security/freedom was the least though very common. Due to popular demand we will be talking about that today and I hope that very good friend of mine is reading this because he was actually the inspiration for this.
One of the reasons why people remain in a particular financial state is because of the perception they have about money. People see money as a tool to just acquire possessions that they want and not what they need. In real sense most people are like kids buying toys that they don’t really need, only difference is since they are much older, they need older toys thus the toy car they wanted as kids translate to a fancy car, the amusement park they wanted to go to translate to luxury trips. Now, don’t get me wrong I believe is good to give yourself a treat once in a while but the purpose of you doing that is very important. Most people who do most of the things I spoke of above usually don’t have a good financial plan, the spend way above what they have without plans of getting what they have spent back.
Sometimes I blame most of this on pop culture and I will tell you why; most people especially youths love and adore music stars, movie star, models etc. this people usually portray a life style of extravagance and luxury to their viewers which I believe is all part of entertainment, but what their audience pick out of all this is the lifestyle. So what do you expect from a young lady who sees ‘’Keeping Up With The Kardashians’’ all the time. She would model her life after them and would literally want to keep up with them same applies to a young man who patronize a similar show. If most of these stars could actually take their time and show their audience the sacrifice, energy and sweat they put into their craft, I believe it will do a lot more for their audience. Now let me ask do you feel that these superstars run their show without a good financial plan? I believe certainly not.
Before I go let me give you this advice; if you want to know how to use your money, don’t look at a rapper, actor or model look at people like Bill Gates, Richard Brandson, Elon Musk, Mark Zukerberg, Jack Ma etc. Follow their examples get into their minds and know the way they think via their books and publications. You would be surprised what you will learn. Our next discussion will be on how to use money wisely, to ensure you don’t run dry of cash. So this is where I leave you for today, like I always say keep working towards success and I will definitely see you at the top SAAKPE(that is goodbye in TIV language).

Is a very beautiful morning in my part of the world, actually am just getting up from my bed so let me first of all say a quick good morning to you all. Also, if you reading this and is not morning over there just bear it in mind that the greeting also covers you (or you could just pretend is morning over there as).

In our previous meeting we were able to discuss and talk about the wrong ideology people have about riches or wealth and I hope we were all inspired by that. Today will be a sequel to the previous publication and we will be focusing on what real wealth/riches constitute of. At this junction I would love to add, if you happen to be joining us for the 1st time, I recommend you read the previous publication in order not to be lost along the way.

Quick question; what does real riches/wealth constitutes of? I don’t read minds but I guess 7 out of 10 persons reading this right now just thought a five letter word called M.O.N.E.Y. if this is your answer you so wrong. There is more to being wealthy than just having money. Being wealthy entails you to be successful in every area of your life. You having a robust bank account or steady cash is merely a marker or sign of success.  Let me use this analogy; someone who is suffering from a sickness like malaria usually displays some signs/symptoms like fever, red sore eyes etc. In the same way, wealth has its own markers and money just one out of the many. Now, let me shock you further among all the markers of wealth, money is the least and that is why the most common and easiest to achieve to achieve.

I believe at this point most of you would be wondering what the other markers are right.  Napoleon Hill was a great writer and one of the greatest men who found the keys to riches and did not just use them, but also taught its principle to others to use. His principles have being a guide to wealthy individuals for generations, his book can be found on the shelf of most successful individuals. In his most famous book “Think and Grow Rich”, he gave a detailed yet simple explanation of what constitutes riches

Let’s see what Napoleon Hill says constitutes real riches;

1. A positive mental attitude
You can’t be having a negative mental attitude and be rich, so I understand why this is topping the list.

2. Physical health
I understand why it is said that Health is wealth because if you don’t have good physical health, you’ll spend a fortune trying to get healthy and then go poor in the process.

3. Harmony in human relations
No man is an island of himself so you have to be in harmony with other people around you.

4. Freedom from fear

5. Hope of future achievements

6. The capacity for applied faith

7. Willingness to share ones blessings with others
8. To be engaged in the labour of love

9. An open mind towards all subjects to all people.

10. Complete self-discipline

 11.Wisdom with which to understand         people

12. Financial security aka financial freedom

These are the 12 key constitute of real riches as you can see, financial freedom is the last on the list. On this note I advise us not to be caught in the euphoria of just acquiring money and then end up not enriching ourselves in the 11 other areas mentioned. This is where I will leave you for today but until the next time we meet, keep working towards success and I will definitely see you at the top.

Riches

Riches which can being seen as having great possessions, abundantly supplied with resources, means or funds; wealthy; well to do; affluent  is a topic of great importance and usually controversial thus, it is no coincidence that it’s coming first on the #Mikemissilesseries. The topic has spanned arguments in all parts of the world as well as in different generations
I am looking at the topic from many standpoints in order to give a concise yet broad view of the topic. Now, I’ve heard people say that they would prefer to be rich and happy; others have said I rather die than be poor. Others believe that rich folks are greedy, wicked, and since we live in a religious society, they believe that all rich people will perish. This has made people to believe that it is spiritual to be poor and if you want to get an eternal reward you must be poor. These are just a few controversies surrounding the topic but as we forge ahead I will try as much as possible to clear the air and provide a paradigm shift to the topic
Now, looking at the topic riches from a religious angle, taking one of the most commonly practiced religion christianity you will discover written in the book of 1 timothy 5:8, clearly points out the fact that a man who does not provide for his relatives and especially members of his household has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever. That means God acknowledges Providence for family, and if you’re unable to provide, it makes you worse than an unbeliever. This takes us back to the notion earlier mentioned of poor people getting an eternal reward and the rich people will face eternal damnation.  Personally, I believed that while growing up and it cost me a lot of things and caused me so many set backs.
I strongly feel that most Christians have this ideology due to the story about Lazarus and the Rich man, who were poor and rich respectively in the gospel of Luke chapter 16. Now, while Lazarus made heaven, the rich man made hades and was in torment. I’ll love to point out here that the bible never recorded that it was their bank account statements that determined their lot as regards to where they went. I believed, it was the fact that the rich man never knew God and Lazarus was born again that took them to hades and heaven respectively.
I Ameh Michael, say today by virtue of this article to the Christian folks that God is an advocate of riches and of wealth. The God of Christians is not a poor God and as such does not celebrate lack. I also say that both Lazarus and the Rich man could have made heaven if he (the rich man) had known God. Christians today need embrace and strive for a life of abundance as a life of abundance is what God has in store for them.
Now for the muslim folks out there, I am not really vast in the teachings of the Qur’an but it is recorded in one of the surahs that the upper hand is better than the lower hand, meaning it is better to give than to receive. That means, Islam also promotes giving and I believe you cannot give what you do not have.

We need to come to understand that religion is not supposed to make us poor. Let us make progress in living the life of plenty and of abundance that our religion has called us to live. The next article will be centered on telling us what real riches constitute but until then, keep working towards success and see you at the top.

 I don't know if is just me or do we all have that special friend of ours that is always full of new exciting ideas? Today he tells you about something he is so thrilled about, tomorrow is something new and even more exciting than the former. I really love those friends of mine(I said friends because I have more than one of such friend in my life) because they inspire you to want think more, act more and learn more. Though this can be a good quality to have, it also has a bad side to it if not put in check. What is the bad side to it? Most persons with this type of trait tend to lack focus which is very key.

F= Face
O= One
C= Course
U= Until
S= Success

Alot of people have the problem of being focused on whatever they really need to be committed to and because of that, they tend not to complete any task at the end of the day. We are easily distracted by little things that don't matter or won't help us to achieve our proposed objective. It is cool to always come up with a fantastic idea, but that does not mean we should be hell bent on executing immediately it comes to us trust me when i say you are just excited by the spur of the moment. Most friends I have with such attitude never get to see any project to its completion. It also causes lack of trust among people you working with because they wont perceive you as someone who is level headed. In the long run you will find people not believing in you and not buying into your ideas and you wont blame them, if you were in their shoes you wont even agree to follow you.

A friend of mine once said that unrealized dreams and vision is a result of broken focus. I find this to be very true let me use a simple analogy to explain this: focus can be likened to a photographer and his camera, once he picks up the camera and focuses the lens to take a shot, he is blind to every other thing around him and then he takes the perfect shot. If his focus is broken, the picture comes out blurry and I know none of us would love such a picture. Now that is how focus works, if you remain focused to your dreams and goals, the picture of what you want, what you working towards and what you want to become will be clear to you and you will not get distracted or discouraged by things that don't matter but if you are not focused, the picture of what you want,what you working towards and what you want to become will be blurry and thus, you will get distracted by little cares and worries that pop up along the way on your journey to success.

So, let us all try and make a deliberate effort to maintain focus and believe me you will achieve success beyond your own imagination. This is where I leave you for now, but until the next time, keep doing what you doing to your full potential and i will definitely see you at the top.  

Have you ever heard this saying in business that your unhappy customers are your best customers. I never knew what that meant until some days back when I published my last piece. I always look forward to getting reviews from my audience(nice reviews of course I mean everyone wants to hear something nice) but it did not totally go the way I expected. Most of the review was centered on what I said about weekend(I never knew Friday had a lot of fans) even my editor was not happy. It was definitely not the kind of review I wanted but on the bright side I got to know my best customers. Now, most persons already have their philosophy about the weekend and is because of that particular philosophy that they have adopted or bought into that I got such feedback. What I would love such persons to do is to keep an open mind and let me lend them mine in this article. At the end of the day, is a free world you can decide to adopt it or discard it.

Now, most people love weekends because is the time they get to rest, hang out, have fun, and most importantly stay away from their job so for most persons, weekends are the best but, that is were the problem lies. Most persons are involved in daily activities that they don't love and are toxic to them physically, psychologically and emotional. Statistics shows that the rate of heart attack increases on Monday mornings to about 20 percent and this is due to stress of thinking about returning to a job they detest. This have being proven medically.

But is not Monday that is the cause is beacause most people are engaged in things that they don't love. Let me ask this question; does something you love trigger a heart attack? I don't think so. This does not only apply to the working class it applys also to students. Most student are studying courses they don't have love for either because they settled for less, or it was imposed on them by parents or guardians. This makes them to feel low or stressed out on Monday mornings(trust me i have being there).

So what do you expect if you gave such a person that hates what they do an opportunity for a perfect getaway or an escape. They will surely seize it, love it with all they have in them and that is what people see Fridays as; an escape from what they hate that is making them sick. Imagine if Fridays is the day work started in a week don't you think it would have the same effect as Mondays? I can bet my life that a DJ who hates his job and works in a nightclub only from Fridays to Sundays hates Fridays and love Mondays because Monday is his own day of escape.

The cool thing is you can chose to drop what is making you sick and start doing what you love that gives you purpose. Is not going to be easy but is going to be worth it. If you chose to do what you love it won't feel like job or hardwork and you will always be eager to go back to it with the slightest chance you have and trust me when I say you will not look for a vacation away from something you love. Like I always say before I leave keep doing what you do to your full potential and I will definitely see you at the top.

"I hate Mondays!!!!" Now, I won't ask if someone has ever made that statement because that was an anthem I sang every single Monday morning. I said sang because am done with that and presently I love Mondays. I guess someone would be like "Did he just say love Mondays, I think he made a mistake or something". Well, to make things clear let me repeat myself I LOVE Mondays and I am going to tell you my secret on how I made that possible and also teach you to be a lover of Mondays. Deal?

Now, how did I make that transition from hate to love? Simple. I traced it down to the root cause. I asked myself why do I hate Mondays? The answer I got maybe the same as that of most people and it was this; It is the beginning of a new week and that puts an end to my most beloved weekend. Nice reason right but was this the real reason?

A mentor of mine once said in questioning, you should go beyond just asking one question to find the real answer thus I applied this principle. I asked myself if it is because is the beginning, I should hate Sundays the actual day the week starts so why Mondays? I realized it’s because that is when the week work starts. Next question why do I hate work? Because am lazy. Lazy! That can't be right am not lazy (this was what I was saying to myself) truth they say is a bitter pill and this was one I had to swallow. It took a while though but, I came to terms with it.

 I found my answer. So, what next? I had to work on it because what I was lazy at was not work but lazy at myself. I was lazy at doing the things to make me better, I was lazy at doing the things that will develop me. Until I realized this I was stuck with my hatred for Mondays and I remained at performing average and thus was an average person. I believe this is the same for most of us still hating Mondays what we don't know is that most people we admire today really love working hard.

Aliko Dangote, the richest man in Africa and according to Forbes the 56th richest person during an interview was asked if is true that he works 12 hours a day and this was what he said "I don't work 12 hours daily, but 18 hours daily". I was shocked when I saw this interview this man is the richest African for God sakes and he is not taking a break talk more of me I must be crazy to be lazy because come to think of it am not even number last on Forbes list(Forbes don't even know I exist). Bill gates once worked overnight and slept under his desk he was discovered by his secretary the next morning who went in to clean the office and that was when he discovered that he has being working for close to two days. He said that in his twenties never took a day off. Well, I am not saying we should stay awake all night and sleep under our desks but if you have being an admirer of Bill Gates and what he has achieved, I believe that is not a wrong step.

I studied most of the successful people in different fields and I discovered this holds true for all of them. They develop a strong work ethic different from the average individual and stick to them. It is said at some point hard work beats talent and this is true as it has being observed over and over again. These are the things I saw that made me become a lover of Mondays because let’s face it nobody ever made it by saying TGIF every weekend. I have thrown that phrase out of my register and now this is what I say TGIM (Thank God Is Monday) and guess what I now hate Fridays! It may sound funny to you but that is the way it is now because Friday's plan is to take away my beloved working week and bring in a lazy weekend.

So this was how I started a love affair with Monday it may not be what you expected but I hope you learn from it and apply it. That will be all for now so just keep working hard on your journey to success in whatever field you're in and I will definitely see you at the top.

For any resolve made to be a habit you need to have discipline and be committed to that new discipline otherwise, you will never ever get the desired results. This fact as established in our previous article poses the big question: How can someone develop discipline?  Now, I took a little time out, did a little asking around and observed that most of the people I approached associated lack of discipline with lack of will. I guess most people reading this article right now will think that is true. Well, it is not. People that are not disciplined in the real sense don’t lack the will. The only problem is that they are just willing You need something more than a will power. In the Christian community there is this popular saying that ‘The spirit is willing but the body is weak’  will-power can only be enough to get you started but you need something stronger than a will power called a ‘WHY power’.
 What is a why-power? This is simply the reason why you are embarking on a particular course. If you do not find a suitable reason why, you will always start up something new and quit eventually. Finding the reason why gives purpose to your quest. Rarely does a person with a purpose quit. There was a story of a lady whose son was trapped under a car, the weight of the car was crushing on her little boy, while folks around were trying to call 911 and calm her down, she pulled away from their grip, rushed and lifted up the car and pulled her son out, by herself.

Now in a different setting the woman is to lift the car. Would she be able to do it? I believe the answer is no.  So, what has changed? It is the same woman, the same car, the only difference is that no son to rescue.

Here is to WHY she was able to do it before. She saw her son who gave her a reason for being a mother, her embodiment of joy and happiness and probably her reason for living in a death trap, she had a reason and that was all it took. Finding a reason WHY gives an adrenaline rush to whatever you want to do the ‘why’ is much stronger than the ‘will’. That is why I say ‘when there is a will there is a way but when there is a why you will create a way even when there is no way’.

 If you have not found a reason why search deep within you to find one and this will be a great catalyst on your journey to success. So keep living at your full potential and see you all at the top!
 Kpahimee (that is goodbye in Igede language)

"I am overweight need to lose some weight", "I need to increase my capacity I will start reading a book  month" "I drink too much I need to stop". If you have ever made that statement or something similar to that, then you in luck because this is a specially designed for of you.


January was just like yesterday I believe most of us made some resolutions which we term the "new year resolution(s)". We made beautiful plans, wrote them down, some to increase our income, to stay healthy and fit etc. Now, my question is how many of us are actually sticking to the resolutions we made? I bet out of 10 persons only 1 or 2 will still be running with it.

 For some people it is at this point they would really grasp the true meaning of the quote that says ''It is easier said than done'' So why can't people stick to what they promise? Is it that they are not willing? Well, is not that they are not willing. The answer is simple. They don't have the discipline enough to propel forward.

Discipline is a very important component for the completion of any task, project or resolution. Jim Rohn once said "Motivation gets you started but habit is what keeps you going".
The quote above explains the reason why people go to seminars, events or religious programd

, get fired up and are moved to carry out resolutions but in the long run can't stick to it. True commitment they say is doing what you said you will do when the initial mode or excitement with which you said it is no longer there.

People at such events are only motivated to start by the excitement and energy of the environment, they did not make it a habit to continue with the new discipline.

Do you know why people quit easily? Its because they have made it a habit to quit so they don't need a motivation to quit it comes natural to them since is a habit. Quitting is also a habit that is learnt. Its not a trait embedded in the human DNA is what we learn as we grow. For any resolve made to be a habit you need to be disciplined and committed to that new discipline otherwise you will never ever get the desired result.


In life we must suffer one of two things, either the pain of discipline or the pain of disappointment or regret. It would be unfair to tell you to be disciplined without telling you how to be disciplined right? So, our next article will be focusing on just that so keep working towards success, see you at the top!